A lot has been said and written about sexism in the Free Software movement over the years, from creepy behavior towards women attending community meetings, to overly sexualized language among software development teams, to infantilizing behavior towards female contributors of projects. What probably hasn’t been talked about as much is the recent emergence of a new type of sexism, taking the form of ostracizing feminist viewpoints based on misguided attempts at inclusivity.
Some women say “screw being kind” in the face of a culture that expects them to be unrealistically gracious. I think kindness is a very high virtue and ideally everyone would be kind, but a lot of people have a problematic definition of kindness.